Welcoming the New Year is like turning a fresh new leaf in the chapter of your life. If you are single, then the New Year can also bring you a lot of new hope in finding love. However, if you have been dating last year but not successful, maybe it is time that you avoid doing the same dating mistakes so that you can find someone for the New Year. Below are the epic dating fails that you need to know and how to avoid them.
Dating Only The People You Have Met Online
One of the biggest mistakes people does when dating is that they rely so much on technology even when it comes to dating. Although online dating sites is a great way to narrow down your search on the type of partner that you want, people who do online dating tend to lose their ability to connect in real life. Online dating does not allow people to improve their interpersonal relationship with others. In most cases, this kind of relationship with others is where the magic happen.
Another damaging effect of doing purely online dating is that people tend to become pickier and people tend to base the character of individuals based on their profile on the website. Thus, avoiding this dating mistake next year is very important.
When you meet a new person, in reality, you don’t really know anything about that person. But that is okay. You take the time to get to know the person more and slowly. Unlike online dating, you cannot bombard a person that you meet in the real world with a lot of questions like their political or religious views. When you meet someone for the first time, you take time uncovering and experiencing the magic of attraction happen.
Dating Fails: The Need To Feel Instant Sparks
One of the epic dating fails that you may have done this year is your need to feel instant sparks when meeting someone. Requiring instant chemistry to someone you have just met or dated once is ridiculous. Just because you didn’t feel any physical spark does not mean that he or she is not for you. The point here is that instant chemistry is not a good indicator that you are compatible with a particular individual. Moreover, if you discontinue dating a person because you didn’t feel the “sparks”, then you are robbing yourself the opportunity of finding a potential partner.
Rushing yourself to feel instant chemistry or attraction can also be intoxicating as well as downright dangerous. Once you feel instant chemistry, your brain and judgment are clouded thus you are not at the best state to make the best decisions for yourself. Thus to avoid these habits when dating, make sure that you are open to the possibility that instant attraction may not happen at once but give yourself and that person some time together and eventually you will feel it. If not, then you can move to the next person.
You Take Rejections Too Personally
Rejection is essential in dating. The thing is that there will be times when you will be rejected even if you like that person a lot. You have to remember that different people prefer different things and although you want them, they might not want you back.
But look on the bright side. Every “no” that you get gets you closer to the right person and the “yes” that you have been waiting for a long time. Whenever you get rejected, make sure that you don’t take anything personally. The problem with some people is that once they get rejected, they try to find out why they get rejected and change themselves drastically. By doing so, you dissolve your true identity that other people may appreciate. Thus, do not take rejection personally and try to be the best that you can be… not someone whom you are not.
Dating Fails: You Always Feel That You Are Entitled To Everything
If you are a person who writes a list of all the characteristics that you want in your partner or if you assume that every individual that looks your way is an indication that they like you, then you have a deep sense of entitlement.
The thing is that love works in mysterious ways and your best course is to approach dating as something of a surprise. Don’t make a list of the person that you want to date or meet because you are only setting yourself to a lot of disappointments. Why? Because such a person never exists in real life. Believe me, I know.
Feeling the Fear Of Missing Out (FOMO)
One of the biggest dating mistakes that people do is that they have an unexplainable fear of missing things out thus they find themselves jumping from one dating scene to the other. Of course, there are a lot of single people out there ready for your picking but with this particular mindset, you will not be able to settle with someone who might be a great match for you. In fact, this behavior might be the reason why you have let go of the right person for you.
Many millennials live very fast-paced lives because of the fear of missing out, but they eventually feel unhappy with their choices. So if you want to change your attitude so that you can be successful with dating for the new year, make sure that you recognize that you have a dating FOMO and deal with it. Take your time in dating other people. Remember that there are plenty of fishes in the sea but the one reserved for you is someone out there. The only way to draw them is for you to take your time looking for them.
So if you are unlucky in love this year, make sure that you avoid these habits when dating. By doing so, you will have better success with your dating endeavors. Have a hopeful and attractive new year ahead of you. Good luck finding your partner next year.