How to Make a Connection With a Woman

Men who are able to read the signals that women send out are less likely to be successful in getting dates than those who continue to misread these flirting signals. Truly, there are signals that spell a win for any guy who can sense it as soon as possible. Some guys, though, fall for the ploys that girls use to get free drinks from the men they reel in with smiles and fake interest.

To avoid falling prey to a woman’s charm and being taken for a ride without getting a single phone number back, you have to have the upper hand in any interaction with a woman. Read on for some more tips on how to do this.

1. Make her believe you understand her better than she thinks.

The effect of a cold reading can be scary and exciting for some women. It’s uncanny when a man can seem to read her after a few minutes of talking. She ends up thinking she might be too transparent, or you’re this superman who has x-ray vision and extra-sensory perception. Or, she could end up thinking you really are meant to be together, and meeting in the club like this is fate. 

If you have her dancing to your tune and hanging on to every word you say, you can take it farther and tell her that you may be soul mates. Women are into those kinds of things.

When women are flustered by the ‘truth’ in your words, she either gets defensive or she opens up totally. Either way will work for you. Cold reading is a skill that requires you to think fast on your feet, and change your stories or predictions according to the woman’s reactions. 

2. Push her buttons.

Teasing a girl you like should feel familiar; you’ve been doing this since you were in kindergarten. While there are many differences between pulling a girl’s pigtails when you were a lot younger and blatantly teasing a woman you just met, the principles behind these actions are similar. 

The goal is to make her react, to challenge her, and to make her look at you in a different way. When you push a woman’s buttons, you get her attention and more importantly, you keep her hooked on you. Most women think of the interaction that ensues after a bout of teasing as ‘making a connection’, which is the most important thing in dating.

You don’t have to believe that skill in dating and picking up women comes only after you’ve dealt with rejection in every shape and form. Even if you’re new to dating, you can make a connection with a woman as long as you handle the interaction smoothly.

David Kwan