Why don't women like nice guys ? Why do they like bad boys ?
Contrary to popular opinion, women do like nice guys.
What they don't like is guys who let women walk all over them.
They don't want a doormat and they don't want a supplicating fool.
Women walk all over nice guys because nice guys let them do it.
Women want to be treated like ladies, with
respect and adoration, but they don't know what to do when they are
treated that way. They are simply not wired to expect this sort of
treatment from a man who could be a potential mate. It's not the
type of behavior that arouses them. In fact, it has the opposite
affect. But that doesn't mean you need to be a "bad boy" or jerk to
get what you want, it just means that you have to show women that
you cannot be walked all over. It means you DON'T supplicate
yourself with a woman. Think of it like a reward system. In order
for you to do something nice for her, she MUST first do something
nice for you. Not the other way around.
The following example to explain the reward system :
You're at a club/bar/whatever and see an attractive woman
sitting/standing alone waiting to pick up her drink or basically not
doing anything. Move in and say "If you buy me a drink, I'll let you
kiss me." Sure, it doesn't work in all scenarios, and doesn't work
with all guys/women or personality types but if you dissect the
problem, you'll notice a few key things you've portrayed to her in a
rather short comment:
You're a man who knows what he wants and knows how to get
it. You don't supplicate by asking to buy her a drink. Instead, you
suggest she buys YOU a drink. You're telling her that you'll
"reward" her, but only if she provides you with something you
want. The "reward" is actually something you want but it
doesn't come off that way. You're fun and daring.
Once in a while, some woman will actually take you up on the
offer and not only do you turn the game around, but other women at
the club/bar/whatever will notice this (without knowing what you
said to her) and their own interest will be enhanced, opening up
more opportunities.
An average chump, on the other hand, will usually awkwardly hang
around the bar wand wait to find women who they can offer to buy
drinks for.
Losers, Supplicators, "Nice guys." They're the first to get
stepped on, used, then ignored, and the last to get laid. These guys
will call getting laid "getting lucky" because that's what it takes
for them to successfully seduce a woman - luck.
Contributed by Nathan
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