Approaching Women The Way Naturals Do
Let me ask you a question...
What's running through your mind just as you're about to approach a woman and start a conversation with her?
Do you immediately start thinking of the 'perfect' pick up line to get her attention?
Do you look for potential signals that she's 'open' for conversations before you make the approach?
As you're about to make your move, do you suddenly conjure up thoughts that if she's that attractive, she definitely has a boyfriend?
Or worst still, do you try to play and act cool so that SHE'LL come up and talk to YOU?
If you're 'guilty' of committing any one of these mistakes in the past, I don't blame you.
It's basically something that practically EVERY GUY will go through as they're out trying to approach and meet women.
So now that you know what these 'mistakes' are, it's time for you to learn how to DEAL with it.
Let's analyze them a little further...
"Do you immediately start thinking of the 'perfect' pick up line to get her attention?"
Pick up lines are so 'yesterday' and just in case you don't already know, women, especially the super attractive ones are practically IMMUNE to it.
Think about it, these women, they get 'approached' by men (in one way or another) at least 7-10 times a day wherever they go; whilst waiting for a cab, in the elevator, when they're out shopping, when they're walking their dog... EVERYWHERE.
Now imagine how YOU will feel if YOU were in HER shoes.
Guys coming up to you.. one after another.. trying to impress you & get your attention by chalking up all sorts of 'creative' pick up lines.
Won't you get SICK of it?
Trust me, whatever you can think of, they've DEFINITELY heard it all!
Pick up lines won't work, essentially you could walk right up to any woman, smile and just say a simple 'hi' and it'll STILL work.
How?
See, the key to a successful pick up is for you to concentrate more on the SUBSEQUENT lines and NOT the initial pick up line itself! A simple 'hi' does the job for you. You then ENGAGE and HOOK her in with your opener.
"Do you look for potential signals that she's 'open' for conversations before you make the approach?"
Be honest with me.
How often have you come across a woman who will flat out give you surefire 'signals' that she wants you to come talk to her?
That's right. Maybe 1 out of 25 perhaps... IF you're lucky.
If you look like a nerd, dork or an ass, it'll be ZERO. lol.
More importantly, even if she DID give you the green light, I'll bet you a dollar you STILL won't move an inch. Mainly because you didn't have a plan to follow. And when you don't have a plan, you will FEAR the unknown and possibly potential rejection.
If you're also thinking of things like:
"As you're about to make your move, do you suddenly conjure up thoughts that if she's that attractive, she definitely has a boyfriend?"
"She seems to be having fun with her friends, if I go talk to her she might not be interested and she'll just ignore me"
"She's soo hot, I don't think she'll be interested to talk to me, so why bother?"
Well... these negative thoughts are merely subconscious EXCUSES your mind plays on you, giving you reasons NOT to approach simply because you're not confident of pulling it off successfully.
(Be very, VERY careful of 'reasons' because they can easily become EXCUSES)
Deep down, you're AFRAID that if you did bomb in your approach, she'll laugh, make fun & belittle you in front of her friends and that to you is SCARY AS HELL.
"Do you try to play and act cool so that SHE'LL come up and talk to YOU?"
One of the BIGGEST sin... bad, bad, baaaad.
Come on... are you so NAIVE as to think that women will actually make the first move, come up and talk to you??!!
Puh-leeze.
Wake up my man!
Now if you're aware of it, why do you KEEP DOING IT OVER AND OVER again??!!
Each time you come across a woman you'd like to meet, you should be going in with a mindset of "She's in for a real treat today! I'm gonna make her laugh so hard..."
Or "she looks bored. I'd better go over and cheer her up"
Get it?
You're now the person with a HIGHER VALUE than her, and she'll be GRATEFUL to you for talking to her.
These are better quality questions that instantly gives you self-confidence & energy to approach her. And it'll naturally show in the way to talk and act in front of her.
To do "well" with women, ultimately you have to first understand how they think, why they do what they do and EXACTLY what they're actually looking for in their 'ideal' man.
David Kwan
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