Parties are the classic pick up place. A good party is a great chance to widen your social circle and to meet attractive girls. While they can be fun and exciting, it can also be nerve-wrecking if you are trying to meet someone of the opposite sex.

To make the task less difficult, here are some simple, but effective tips that you can use:

Come prepared

Girls take hours to get ready for parties so your appearance is particularly important. Make yourself look attractive and presentable. Dress well and appropriate with the party’s theme.

It will also be helpful if you think of good conversation starters even before the party starts. By doing so, it will be easier for you to start conversations without being awkward.


Once there, keep in the center of the action – don’t hide in the kitchen etc. You need to mingle with other people if you want to find the right girl for you. Start conversations and be the life of the party.

You do not need to look for a girl right away and start a one-on-one conversation, you start mingling with groups if you want. This is a great way to break the ice.

Approach the girl with confidence

If you are trying to pick up a girl, you should approach her in a confident manner. Confidence should not be mistaken for rude behavior. You should know that these two are different. You can be confident without sounding and looking arrogant and conceited. Just walk up to her with a big smile and head held high.

Know what to say

Avoid worn-out party pick ups like ‘Do you want another drink?’ etc. Use people-talk openers like ‘Do you know Steve?’ or ‘Do you know Jane? Is she coming tonight?’, or ‘Have you seen Jo?’ .

Girls are more interested – and feel more secure about getting into a conversation with you – if you give the impression you’re a regular party-animal type.

Keep the topic of your conversation light and interesting. Some great starters include favorite movies and music. Also, you should remember that girls love to talk about themselves. So, you can also ask about her likes and interests. Complimenting her too will be a big plus. Your compliments should be sincere of course.

Work on your body language

Body language is very important. If you want to win a girl, then you should know how to use your body language to your advantage. The most crucial things to do is to smile, maintain eye contact (but don’t stare), have an open stance and lean from time to time.

Make her smile

Girls love guys with good humor. If you can make her laugh, it will be easier for her to like you. A simple banter may do the trick. Keep the conversation engaging and entertaining. You do not need to look that you are trying too hard. If there is chemistry between the two of you, it will naturally flow.

Show that you are interested

One of the most important things to do is to show that you are interested. You can do this by simply saying things like, “I think you’re cool” or “You’re so fun to talk to”. From there, you can move on with the type of conversation that will tell her how interested you are. Just add compliments here and there and that’s it!

It will also help if you are focus on just one girl. This is also a way to show your interest.

Suggest other private places

If you feel that everything is going well, then you can suggest a rendezvous to a more “private” place for the two of you. Don’t be afraid to suggest and just go with the flow.

Meeting new people can be a difficult task. Things like who to approach, how to approach them and what to say start flooding your mind until you are too flustered to do anything. It becomes even more difficult when you are trying to do so in the midst of a social situation, such as a party. The best way to defeat that fear of failure is to go in with a game plan.

Your game plan should include the tips listed above. Good luck and cheers!

Special thanks to Kevin Gaynor for his valuable contribution