Rejecting Girls

Question and Answer with relationship expert Dr Dennis

Dear Doc:

You are awesome! I read your book, and then took one of your “hunting sessions” about a month and a half ago, and I’m scoring like crazy!

That doesn’t sound bad, right? So, what kind of problems do I have now? I have started using your techniques regularly – even when I just talk to women in stores, restaurants, etc., and it’s becoming a regular part of my vocabulary. This is both for practice and because I like the attention women give me. Many times, these women just hand me their numbers without my even asking them!

So, here’s my problem: what do I do if I’m not interested in them ? I don’t want to be rude and turn them down, but I don’t want them to be waiting for me to call either.

Should I only use “the talk” (as I call it) when I’m interested in a girl?

Help!

Hello!

No, YOU are awesome! Congratulations on your success, I couldn’t be more proud of you. This is the kind of “problem” that every guy wants to have!

Women hate it when they give a man their number and he never calls. Of course, men hate it when they get a bogus number, or when they call and get brushed off! When I’m out and a girl that I’m not interested in wants to give me her number, I just say, “I don’t think my girlfriend would appreciate it very much.” Although, I’ve had women still press it into my hand saying, “Keep it – you may want it later.” Who am I to argue?

You’ll remember from the book that I talk about generating different types of relationships with women. I call them “1’s”, (those that are relationship material), “2’s”, (those that could be relationship material if other factors changed), and “3’s”, (those that you’re not interested in dating long-term, but can act as a backup). This is a good strategy as no women should ever start as a “1”, she should earn it.

If you get a phone number of someone nice, but that you’re not sure you’d want to date her long term, take her number anyway and let her start as a “3”. If she proves to be more interesting than you originally thought, you can move her to a “2”.

Another consideration is that while she may not be your ideal woman, she might know someone that is! You can use referrals to your advantage to expand your contacts. This might be the best reason to always accept numbers.

Good luck, much love…