Approaching women is fun ! I think the biggest problem with shy boy is he thinks that approaching women is painful, and he would rather not have to do it. That is a problem. The problem is 100% mental. You have to make approaching women fun. I think this point is critical and you should take it serious.

It’s ok to be a little nervous. A woman won’t punish you for being a little nervous. She is a little nervous too! Women know it takes courage to do what you are doing. It takes courage for her to speak with you too. It is a good day when two brave people of the opposite sex are having an unplanned chat for the very first time. Women know exactly why you are making contact with them. Don’t think for a second that a woman doesn’t know what you are doing. She will let you know if she doesn’t want to talk. Make sure you are giving her good eye contact during the whole approach. The game is on within the first 5 seconds. A good thing to note is that most women do want to talk! It’s flirting! Women love it! It’s fun! She will tell her girlfriends all about it. Her girlfriends are at full attention and they want to know all of the details! If she is in your social circle the word about you gets out fast. And it’s all good! Women start approaching you! They usually won’t just walk up to you and say something. What they do is move their body into position for you to make your move! Trust me, I know what I am talking about here. Pay attention to the number of women coming into your contact range is increasing. It’s not an accident. Flirting has an amazing effect with women! I think women hear about my flirting or they see it with their own eyes and they want me to flirt with them too !

This is not something that only I can do. You can do the same thing too. Be nice to the women you approach, and they will say nice things about you. Don’t confuse this with being a “nice guy” because that is different. The “nice guy” doesn’t have the courage to approach women nor does he have a clue about what women are attracted and not attracted to. What I mean by be nice is to give her good eye contact, pay attention and show interest in what she says, show her your smile (she will mirror it), and thank her for answering your questions. Always close a talkative woman. Ask for her name, tell her it was a nice chat, and ask her to do it again. Never act like a pussy. Be friendly but be masculine. Never show needy. Keep in mind that you don’t have to prove anything to a woman on first contact. Just let her know that you are interested in her. Sometimes the real hot ones need to be told what to do. I’m not getting into that here. If you want a really hot one then you are better off listening to somebody else rather than me. My techniques are good with all women but they are not really that effective with HB9 and HB10. Those super hot women need more challenge or they get bored. You can bust her ass with C+F and probably get her excited. I’m not very good at C+F because I don’t use it very much. However, I do have extremely good timing when I do use it.

I recommend the 3-second rule. Believe me it works. All you have to do is just tell yourself I am using the 3-second rule starting right now, and in the moment of truth you just do it! “Excuse me, what time is it?” That’s not very good but it’s better than nothing. You can follow with another question. But you got to take action. When you come into contact range with an HB just do it! Don’t think about it, don’t hesitate, don’t chicken out, and you just stop her and say, “Excuse me.” All I can do is telling you how to do it. The rest is up to you. Don’t tell yourself it sounds good but I don’t need to do that. Trust me, you do need to do that. That is a great experiment and it produces more contact with women than anything I have ever done before in my life! You can do it. Make approaching women fun. When you are in the right attitude go into the 3-second rule and just do it. Don’t think about maybe doing it. Do it! If you can’t do the 3-second rule then you are a pussy. I’m sorry but that is the way I feel about it. If you want to start getting results than do what I said. If you can’t do this simple exercise than everything I say to you is pointless. This kind of advice doesn’t work when you save it for a rainy day. You have to do it right now. Start by making this fun. You can study seduction until you are old and gray and never learn a damn thing. Taking action is required to move your game to the next level. You have to take some chances. Tell yourself I can do it and I am going to do it and I am going to start right now! Do it! Their just women! You are not bothering her! 1 out of 20 women will seem rude. Sometimes a woman will sigh a little bit but so what. I have never had a woman give me a really hard time. It’s just something that men make up in their minds. Maybe you see it on TV. It’s not realistic. One sigh in 20 women is not a big deal. When you see your game improving instantly you can laugh off a bad approach. You can see the big picture and how it doesn’t even matter. You can instantly see that you do have many choices. Those women can see it too. But talking about it and doing it is different. Don’t take my word for it. Prove it to yourself.

Don’t use the 3-second rule in bars and clubs. I don’t do it there unless a woman comes into my space. Yeah, it does work in their too but the women have their bitch shields up, and they sometimes are cold. Just ask them to dance instead. Don’t talk to her while you are dancing. Maybe ask her what is her name but that’s it. Save the talk for after the dance. Do the 3-second rule away from the normal socializing circles like bars, clubs, and parties.

That’s it. I don’t know what else I can tell you about first contact. Just keep doing it. Do it for practice too. Don’t just save your skills for that special woman you want to be with. I did that and it doesn’t work. You have to stay active. Eventually you will get your chance with the woman that you want to be with. You will be better because you got the practice in. In the mean time take what lays you can get.

Contributed by : Jerry Collins


C+F = Cocky + Funny

HB = Hot Babe

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