How to Deal With Competition From Other Guy
Hi
I would like to know how do we have to go on with jealousy ! I have this girlfriend that a lot of guys are after her but some times I get jealous and I have the feeling I lose control.
I want to show her that I don't like it and that I keep being the prize
>>> My Comments:
Send me her pic, will ya? This looks serious lol.
Anyway, take it easy dude. Take it as a big compliment to have guys competing for your girl.
She that hot, eh? lol.
But seriously, there's many ways you can play this game. First off, you've got to be clear on the full story, is your girl fending those guys off or is she actually ENCOURAGING the attention by flirting with them guys?
Get to the root of the problem, it'll be easier to solve it then :-)
For starters, you could also play the same:
- Flirt, tease and mess with other women around and make sure she SEES
it
- Have rock steady Composure
- Not being needy and "clingy"
1) Flirt, Tease And Mess With Other Women Around And Make Sure She Sees It.
This works two ways. Playing on a woman's insecurities and jealousy is a very POWERFUL technique to intensify her emotions and feelings for you.
(Women are naturally very COMPETITIVE with one another. Have you ever noticed a beautiful woman walking into a room, and OTHER women will start to stare at her from top to bottom at her just to analyze amd 'study' her?)
Put several beautiful women in a room together, and you can see all sorts of 'catty' fights happening in no time (it happens A LOT especially with models), they'll always be wondering who's the most beautiful, successful, gets the most attention from men, etc...
You'll notice how women will react much more AGGRESSIVELY to fend off competition and 'protect' you from other women if she REALLY likes you.
That's possibly the EASIEST way for you to project yourself as the "prize".
It's also one of the most effective.
2) Have Rock Steady Composure
The one thing you shouldn't do however is to get angry and tell her how pissed you are with the current situation.
Don't forget, jealousy = insecurity
You've got to have COMPOSURE at all times as a man, and not let the little things get to you. Learn to be CALM & relaxed when dealing with life's 'challenges'.
Women find this irresistibly ATTRACTIVE.
As a MAN, women look up to you to lead and more importantly to be IN CONTROL.
In control of the people around you, in control in the midst of 'crisis', in control and comfortable with self whatever the situation.
In your case, you're not letting external circumstances get to you, and it displays CONFIDENCE.
There aren't many guys around who have this trait mastered. And it's very
attractive to women.
Do it, and your value in her eyes, increases.
It's essentially what makes you the ultimate 'Alpha Male' women have always been secretly wishing they could be together with.
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3) Not Being Needy And "Clingy"
When a guy is "in love" with a girl, he tends to have develop a habit of clinging on to her, spending all his available time with her, and slowly turning into a "man-woman" aka
wussboy.
He'll do and say whatever it takes to make her happy, submit to all her demands, he'll develop less of a backbone; when they're out together, he'll FOLLOW & stick her everywhere she goes, as if he's afraid that she might just leave anytime.
He'll say things that will ANNOY the hell outta her thinking it's the "right" thing to say like..
"Do you like this place?"
"Are you enjoying yourself?"
You: "Where'd you like to head to later?" Her: "I'm not sure... what about you?" You: "I'm fine with anything you decide..."
This is NOT leading.
Understand that the more you cling to her, the more she'll push you away. You've got to be 'savvy' to know exactly when to give her "space", and when to reel her in with your attention.
David Kwan
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