First, you need to convey personality to her – fascinate her and establish to her that you are interesting, beyond just an initial glance.

It doesn’t matter if your life might be viewed as “boring” or “average” (i.e. you’re an accountant and aren’t an outdoors type or don’t go out and party every night), as long as you can fascinate her with your initial approach (or after some initial fluff talk), stir her emotions, and then pace and lead her emotions. Do all of that and simultaneously build rapport (through your language, mirroring) and anchor all those new good feelings she’s having to you.

Even doing all that, your job isn’t over. All of that setup is meaningless to you unless you structure an opportunity for her to get with you. Structuring an opportunity doesn’t mean ask her for her number or ask her out. It means present an opportunity for her to decide to get with you – whether that means immediately or some time in the near future. You don’t want to be seen as someone who’s looking for something or someone to add to your life, you already have a life and have this interesting, amaazing quality about you. If she wants to be a part of that or get a piece of that, she is the one who should take the opportunity you present.

Contributed by Nathan