Building Your Confidence
There are many ways to build your confidence, you can work out to look and feel great, try to always look your best, or even drink a little alcohol to get a little "Liquor Courage". What I'm going to talk about is how to build your confidence by way of affirmation.
Using affirmations can be a very powerful tool. You can use it in many aspects of your life to achieve certain goals and to ultimately effect the way YOU want to feel. Using affirmations can mirror the world you want to live in.
If you are not sure of what an affirmation is I will explain this now. An affirmation is a statement that you repeat to yourself over and over again until it penetrates into your sub-conscious and becomes a belief.
This is what you do. You can either write your affirmation down or you can just make one up in your head. Think of something that you really want to achieve, or something you really want to feel.
What's important when you make an affirmation is that the words you use are positive words and they reflect the present, not the future. It doesn't matter whether you believe your affirmation or not, because the main goal is that you will believe in it in time. It will become your belief!
Words you want to avoid when making affirmations are: anxious (I know this is what you're trying to get rid of, but anxiety is a negative word and a negative feeling, you don't need to remind yourself of this).
Most people when first learning affirmations feel compelled to make statements like "I do not feel anxiety when approaching women". This is wrong, because anxiety is a negative world.
All affirmations should be short and straight to the point. Do not put big lengthy words in your affirmation. This will only clutter and confuse your mind and take much longer to work.
I strongly recommend only concentrating on one affirmation at a time until you receive those results. Some people might disagree with me on this. But I find using only one at a time brings faster results and stops.
It's extremely important that you repeat your affirmation to yourself as often as possible. I usually repeat mine in my head hundreds of times in a day.
Persistence is also very important. You may not get results right away, but do not give up on it. Stick with it, the results will be worth it in the long run.
When you use affirmation, you will find that after some time your mind will adapt what you repeat in your head over and over again as a fact.
So when you say to yourself, oh lets say "I am a good looking guy, and women do find me attractive". Eventually you will believe these statements and gain the confidence to approach a woman that you like.
Your confidence will also show, and that is a big part of being attractive.
Now it is important to know that you can't directly affect other people by saying your affirmations in your head but you can affect other people by your actions.
And when you're in the right frame of mind, and you begin to live your affirmations or actions will change and this will in return reflect on others.
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