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Tips on Leaving Voice Message to Attract Women
Women we've surveyed tell us that when they
first get in contact with
a guy via voice mail,
they are mostly trying to find out how the sound of
the guy's voice makes them feel. Put yourself in her position: She's
thinking, "Sure, the guy is saying things, but what does he look like? And
how
does
his voice make me feel? Does he sound scary? Does he sound sad? Or
does he sound full of life, awake, and into things?"
So there are two things you have to think about. First, what you
say. Second, how you sound saying it.
First, what you say. You might start off with something like:
"Hi there! I'm glad you wanted me to call. My name is [first
name]. You are probably most curious just to hear the sound of my
voice, and to see how it makes you feel--sort of a 'does this guy
sound cool?' situation. So, well, here I am; I hope you like the
sound of me, and
that you feel good hearing my voice. I'd be very
interested in hearing yours!"
Then you can basically just re-say some of the stuff you said in
your personals ad, and perhaps expand upon it a BIT. The biggest
mistake you can make here is to go on for three, four, or five
minutes about yourself. Remember, at the beginning, most women are
not interested in you--they are interested in how you make them
feel. So you want to leave a lot to the imagination.
Describe yourself physically, and say a few things about what you
are into, or mention what you do for a living--whatever you think
will be most likely to capture her imagination. It's a good idea to
mention any "special features" you have. If you are tall, say so. If
you are at all attractive or fit, say so, by saying something like
"People tell me I'm attractive, and I pay attention to how I look"
or "I work out regularly and keep myself fit." If you are rich, you
might say, "I've been lucky enough to have abundant money in my
life, so that has given me some freedom to travel that I have really
appreciated."
The bottom line is this, though: the shorter the better--You
really don't have to go on for very long.
Second, how you sound saying it: Of course, if this going to
work, your voice has to sound good. If your voice sounds like a
rusty saw, upset, angry, sad, or is unpleasant to listen to, then
you have some work to do.
You can improve the sound of your voice, and it's worth doing if
your voice doesn't sound as nice as it could. Do some deep breathing
before calling, and try warming up your voice by taking a deep
breath, and making a low "ahhhh" sound as you exhale (do this BEFORE
calling her, not WHILE calling her. Most women do not consider deep
breathing and moans to be very seductive on the first phone call. Go
figure.).
Remember to breath fully while you speak, and smile as you leave
the message. Some of our students have good luck leaving messages
right after they work out, because that's when their voices sound
strongest, fullest and most vibrant. There may be some other time of
the day when
you feel most vibrant. Leave your message then.
At the end of your message, remember to make an invitation to
her: "If this sounds interesting to you, please contact me," and
tell her how. Leave both your phone number and your email address,
so she can contact you even if she's afraid to call.
And finally, don't worry about it. You are better off leaving a
sincere if stammering message than a practiced but
artificial-sounding one. Go over what you might say, then just call,
talk, and don't worry about it.
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