You probably decided what league you were in during high school. If you got a hot girl (by sheer chance, mostly), then you decided you were in the “hot chick” league, and that is what you went for, what you expected, and what you got from then on.

If you didn’t get a hot girl in high school (and most of us didn’t), then you decided that you were a minor-league player when it came to women. From then on you went for less-attractive women, you expected less-attractive women, and you got less-attractive women.

If you are going to get major-league girls, you need to understand this: the decision you made in high school about what league of woman you were in is totally out of date now. Take a look at your life. Are you the same guy you were when you were a pimply-faced teenager? Of course not. So why should you be stuck with the same league of women that you were then? It’s time to move up.

Here’s what to do:

1. upgrade your looks Most guys who date women who they aren’t attracted to decided on their “look” at about the same time they decided they could never have a major-league babe. They set their style in stone, and haven’t upgraded their “look” since then. Consequently, their haircuts and clothes are hopelessly out-of-date. And that matters to women. Hot women simply will not bed down with a guy whose looks are way out of date. You’ve gotta upgrade.

This doesn’t have to be hard, or even that expensive. Get a new hairstyle, and get your hair cut by a real pro. Go into clothing stores and tell the clerks that you are looking for a new look. Take their advice, and get some new outfits. Buy a good cologne (ie, an expensive one, like “Cool Water” or “Armani”), and wear it.

Above all else, don’t be afraid to try something new in how you look. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but it’ll get you on the hot women’s radar screen for the first time. More importantly, you’ll feel different. You’ll feel more confident, and that will help get you get the girls you desire.

2. Upgrade your behavior Of course, new clothes and a new haircut aren’t enough to get a hot babe in the sack. You must change your behavior, too.

A hot woman is attracted to a guy who is able to have fun, and who seems to enjoy his life. She is turned off by a guy who seems like he is looking for a woman to make his life worth living.

Consequently, you’ve got to have a life that turns you on if you are going to get the girl that turns you on. Do things that are fun, and that involve other people. If you go to bars, learn pool, darts, and other bar games so you can play those games with girls. Play volleyball. Get involved in your life in activities that are fun and that put you around other people. When a major league babe sees you enjoying your life and having fun, she’ll become interested. You’ll be the kind of guy she is interested in. Then you can make your move.

3. Upgrade your standards An important part of going for the women you want is refusing to go for the women you don’t want. This means that, from now on, you only bang girls you are attracted to. End of story. If you want to move to the major leagues, you’ve got to stop playing in the minors.

This doesn’t mean you only date supermodels, but it does mean you only date women who turn you on. If you’ve felt stuck with dating women who were overweight, or unattractive, stop doing it.

 


Ron Louis and David Copeland are dating coaches and authors of the best selling “How to Succeed with Women” and the creators of  Seduction Techniques