There are four major ways that men try to attract woman
- Status
- Strength
- Smartness
- Sincerity
In this article, we will talk about using Status and Strength to seduce woman.
Attracting woman using Status
Status: The “status” approach is based on the fact that the high-ranking males get the babes. Among non-human male apes, the alpha male gets all the females, period.
Men who rely solely on this approach are the high-status males in our society. Bill Clinton wasn’t voted “most sexy” by American woman because of his good looks (though of course they played a part). His status and power are what got the woman interested in the first place. (When Henry Kissenger said, “Power is an aphrodisiac,” he was talking about status.) One study showed woman pictures of men, and told them what those men did for a living. When a man was said to be a doctor, woman consistently rated him as more attractive than when that same man was said to be teacher or a janitor. Social status does attract woman.
The downside of seeking status to get laid is that not everybody can be the alpha male. It’s a lot of work to become a “big man,” and sometimes no amount of work will get you the status you seek, anyway.
You can use status to help in your seduction, though. All of our distinctions about being a “Level 5 Seducer” and Fundamental 8, “Be building a life you love, separate from woman” are about living the life you want, having self-respect, and having high status in your own life, even if you can’t have it other places. In that way you can use status–the high status with which you treat yourself–to attract woman, even if it never works for you as well as it did for Bill Clinton.
Attracting woman using Strength
Strength: Strength–physical health, physical power, and physical beauty–is another way that male primates (such as us) attract woman. The big, powerful, fit animals get the babes.
Being physically fit and gorgeous does work with woman. We have a gorgeous male weightlifter friend who dyed his hair bright blue. We were walking down the street with him the other day, and a woman stopped making out with her boyfriend to yell to him, “I love your hair! You look great!” Another time we went into a bar with a gorgeous, athletic friend of ours, and the most beautiful woman in the place came right up to him and started talking to him. This is the power of strength and physical beauty with woman.
We believe that paying some attention to your physical appearance is a good idea, if you want to attract woman. The trap is in thinking that it’s possible to change into one of those preternaturally beautiful men who hot woman automatically approach. They are the gifted (and hardworking) top .01% of men in terms of beauty. They have physical gifts, and they’ve worked to improve them. It is unlikely most of us will ever look the way they do, no matter what we do.
While it is unlikely you can become one of the top .01% of attractive men, it is likely that you can improve your chances by improving your appearance of health and beauty, and strength. We are always suggesting that our students spend some money to upgrade their wardrobes, and to get advice about updating their personal style from salesclerks, hair stylists, or stylish men and woman. The phrase “clothes makes the man” has some truth to it; your appearance sends a message about you to woman. At one end of the spectrum, that message may be “I’m attractive and together and desirable.” At the other end, the message may be “I dress and look like a pig to tell you woman to go to hell!” The good news is, you get to chose.
We also suggest that men improve their bodies by finding an exercise program that they LIKE, and enjoy doing. The big mistake we see most men make is they try to do exercises they hate doing. You are better off spending some time shopping around and trying out different types of exercise, until you find one you like and will want to do. That will do a lot more to keep your body in shape than will committing to some other exercise program you hate, and therefore never do. One of our students found that combining Pilates and Ballroom Dance was the perfect workout for him. Another really liked lifting weights at home, and taking long walks. Find what you like, and you will build your Strength, which will help attract woman.
Often Status and Strength get combined; for instance, in professional basketball players. NBA reporter David Remnick noted that “Wherever the players stayed, the hotel lobby resembled the waiting room at a modeling agency. The woman fairly auditioned for them.” The pro players have social status as professional atheletes, as well as extreme physical strength and prowess. And the woman show up for them. You can learn to use these principles in your seduction, too.
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Ron Louis and David Copeland are dating coaches and authors of the best selling “How to Succeed with Women” and the creators of Seduction Techniques |
