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Why Is He Terrorizing Her ?

Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Success Coach - Doc Love

Hi Doc,
 
I've been watching this beautiful girl on campus. I phoned her two weeks ago, not using my real name. I told that I was from another campus and that I happened to see her when I visited her campus. The first thing she wanted to know is how I had got her phone number, so I told that one of my friends took it off someone's phone. Anyway, she wanted to know what I wanted, so I told her that I wanted to get to know her.

She asked me why would I want to get to know her. I told her that I liked what I saw on the outside and I wanted to see if the inside does the outside justice. She gave me a giggle. She then said that I shouldn't call her again. I told that if she gave me a good reason why I shouldn't call, that I wouldn't call her again.

Then she tells me that she doesn't know me. I told her I could change that. Then she tells me that wouldn't change anything.  She's just not interested. Then I told her that she was jumping to conclusions. All I want is to get to know her, be her friend and see what happens from there. 

Then she asks me where I was from and what I was studying. I asked her where she was from and what she was studying and it was going pretty well. I asked whether I could call her again, she tells me no. So anyway I told her that I would call her in two weeks time. She didn't say yes or no.

I phoned her tonight and we started all over again. I asked if she remembered who I was. She said no, so I refreshed her memory. She then tells me that I shouldn't call her again. She told me that she has no interest in guys because her studies were her first priority and that I should save my phone bill for that one special person.
 
So I told her that special person might be her. She told me it's not her. She then started cross examining me again, trying to get more information about me. Anyway she told me that she had to go and has a test on Tuesday to study for, and I shouldn't call her again.

So Doc, what do I do now?

Terry - who just wants to be loved

Hi Ter,

Did you know that you're a Feminsta's fantasy come true? Guys like you give the male bashers more ammo to use to justify their "all men are creeps" propaganda. Plus, you're part of the reason that there's a "War of the Sexes" in America today.

You'd better wake up Dude. What you're doing with this girl is dangerous. And the saddest thing about your question is that you don't have a clue that you're doing anything wrong.

I teach men to be a Challenge and to be positively mysterious, but not creepily mysterious like you're being in this situation. Haven't you ever seen a film where the woman is being stalked by an obsessive guy who doesn't have the self-confidence to approach her properly? You're that guy, Terry.

A surprise call from a complete stranger is guaranteed to attack a woman's comfort level, make her feel quite concerned and possibly frightened. So, you should never, ever call any woman for a date when she hasn't directly given you her phone number herself. Are you getting the drift Terry?

You said that you saw her on campus. So why didn't you just walk up to her and say something like: "Hi. My intuition tells me that you're a Psychology major. Am I right?" Something positive and non-threatening, like a normal guy might do.  Then you might have had a shot at getting her number and actually getting her out on a date. But your courtship technique is straight out of the Troubled Loser's Handbook.

But the girl you've been harassing is not without blame in this situation either. She must be some kind of Bimbo because any clinically sane gal would have cut you off immediately. Instead, she foolishly encouraged you by engaging you in further conversation. I think that she's just too stupid to realize that she was being terrorized by you. Lucky for you she doesn't have more brains or else you might have wound up having a little visit from the Sheriff.

Terry, you need to build your social skills so you feel comfortable and confident meeting women face to face. Perhaps a bit of counseling and a self esteem seminar or two would get you going in the right direction. In the meantime, stay off the telephone. If you don't, you may soon find yourself being handcuffed and taken to a confined space with a new 300 pound roommate named Bubba.

Remember, guys, never attack a woman's comfort level.

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Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars. For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, "Why do you stay with one man versus another?"

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