When To Introduce Her To Your Friends
Question and Answer with relationship expert Dr Dennis
Hi,
I've had a couple of dates with a woman who seems to have a lot
of potential. What is your rule of thumb for when and how to
introduce her to my friends ? What sort of situations should I
avoid?
Thanks
Hello!
Excellent question!
Women understand the importance of a man's friends AND family. My
own rule of thumb is that she doesn't meet them until after the 4th
or 5th date - and never before I sleep with her.
Why? Because women know that once they get "in" with your
friends, they can use them to manage you. Here's an example:
Say your new woman and your friends really hit it off. Very soon
(if not immediately), your friends will start inviting you AND her
places. This insures that you are with her (in her eyes). Now, say
you want to invite someone else. Your friends are going to start
asking questions. Thus, you'll be more likely to take the previous
girl rather than a new one.
On the other hand, if she's up for it, I always want to meet HER
friends as early as possible. I will charm them, make them laugh,
buy them all a drink or two, and generally get in good with them.
When I'm not with her, her friends will be telling her what a great
guy I am, (insert evil laugh).
The downside to this is that women are tighter friends than men
are. Your male friends may even see her as "available" to them - and
compete with you for her! (Be careful whom you choose as friends!)
Thus, if you've got something solid going with her BEFORE you bring
her around your friends, so much the better for you.
Regarding your buddies, make sure that you make time for them
without her too! Many men get all wrapped up in the couple, and
forget that they knew their friends before she entered the picture.
If you take care of your buddies, they will always be there when you
need them. You can't always say the same thing about
girlfriends.
Good luck, much love...
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