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Asian Guy Dating Caucasian Women
Question and Answer with relationship expert Dr Dennis
Dear Dr. Neder,
First
of all, I really love what you're doing to help other guys. Thank
you!
I need some advice on getting dates with Caucasian women because
I'm an Asian guy - it's so challenging! I'm attractive but women
don't seem to look at me as a possible "boyfriend". I'm not blaming
on them at all - I just need some advice.
I'm 5' 7" tall, maybe that's a little bit short for a guy, and
height may possibly be a factor here. I'm reluctant and hesitant to
approach Caucasian women and just ask them out because I'm afraid I
might get rejected. I've tried computer dating services without
luck.
What are the possibilities of getting a date with a white girl?
What do I need to do to really get their attention? It's very
important for me to start dating white women because, although I
look Asian, I'm a cultural American. I'm not even familiar with the
Asian culture! Maybe I'm just not at all good with women. Any
suggestions you may have would be greatly appreciated.
Hello!
Thank YOU for your supportive comments! I'm
just here, trying to build a better man.
Just like in
every other part of life, there are people that like certain things
and those that don't.
Being Asian isn't an issue. You
just have to find the women that are attracted to Asian-looking men.
In fact, many women don't give a rip that you're Asian or anything
else about you. They are concerned about you -the person - not you,
"the 5' 7" Asian guy." Frankly, this is a real benefit to men. Men
are much more likely to scrutinize women visually than women are
men.
In fact, many women may even find your look
"exotic" and "mysterious". You should play on these factors. But
don't focus on them exclusively. Focus on yourself as worthwhile and
"a great catch", and let the women sort it out for
themselves.
What's much more important is to learn what
women want. If you've read many of my articles you know that I
equate dating with selling, as the skills are very much alike. How
successful would a salesman be if, he had a great product, but kept
going to the wrong customers trying to convince them to buy?
Obviously, he wouldn't be successful at all. I see men trying to do
this all the time.
What I suggest is: 1) learn what
your "customer" wants to buy; and 2) sell what your customer is
buying!
In the dating world, this equates to
understanding what women really want and then looking at your
product (you), packaging it for sale and then reaching your customer
to show them the benefits. In my book, "Being a Man in a Woman's
World" I go into this in great depth and suggest that you pick up a
copy.
Don't focus on the things you can't change - being Asian, 5' 7",
etc. Focus on your BENEFITS to your CUSTOMER. That's all that
matters anyway!
Good luck, much love...
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