Dating Process

Handling Rejections

The First Golden Rule to asking for a date is :

No Guts, No Glory

The worst case scenario is that the prospective date says no. At that point, you're no worse off than you are at this very moment.

Rejection is definitely not fun, but a rejection is only one person's opinion. You don't like everyone, and everyone isn't going to like you. If someone says no, then he or she misses out on getting to know how truly terrific you are.

Rejection can be the beginning of opportunity. Scads of hugely successful people just wouldn't take NO for an answer. Rejection means that that person says no, but not that everyone will. You need to realize when no is no, someone showing absolutely no interest. If someone consistently says no when you ask for a date, it's okay to say, "Look I hear that you're not interested, and I don't want to be a pest. If you ever change your mind, here's my number," or I'll call you in a year," but then for heaven's sakes, don't call any sooner than that. With time, the sting really does go away.

If you're afraid of rejection, you may miss out on a lot in this life, which is pretty darned short as it is. See if you can put that angst away, take the chip off your shoulder, and go for it !