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What do I do if she says she has a boyfriend
First of all, in your initial meeting with a
woman, don't go out of your way to ask if she has a
boyfriend unless it is part of the conversation. Asking about it will
give her the impression that you're trying to get with her and
your approach will lose some strength.
A woman will introduce the boyfriend (real or not) into the
conversation mostly in 2 ways:
1.) "I have a boyfriend."
This is usually
given as a response to you asking her for something - "Can I have
your number?", "Let's go out.", "Let's get to know each other
better.", etc.
If that is her first response, you have not done enough work to
attract her or you have supplicated to her (asked her for something
- her number, a date, whatever) and did not structure an opportunity
for her to get with you rather that you trying too hook up
with her. At this point, don't give up (especially if you seem to be
setting up some good rapport). Rather, regroup, refocus, and reframe
the situation in your mind. Don't make her boyfriend mention a big
deal and simply keep building up your personality. Don't tell her
you're a super/great/awesome guy. Show her by your actions, your
mannerisms, your confidence. Give her the subtle impression that
whoever ger boyfriend is, he doesn't have what you have. He can't
offer what you offer. Then, instead of supplicating to her again
(asking for number, blah blah), structure an opportunity. If she
doesn't take the bait, move on.
2.) "Yeah, blah blah, my boyfriend did that the
other day. Blah blah." A lot of the time when a woman mentions her
boyfriend (real or not) in this way (as part of her conversation
rather than as an excuse for not getting with you), she is doing 2
things. She is asserting her desireability and quality, and she is
testing to see your reaction. Treat it as simply part of the
conversation. Remember, just because a chick says she has a
boyfriend does not mean he makes her happy, satisfies her, or is
meaningful to her at all. Women choose to be with someone and
they can choose to not be with that someone and be with you.
Your job is to attract her, get her excited about you, then
structure an opportunity for her to get with you.
Lastly, don't worry too much if she has a
boyfriend or not. Just use your sincerity to touch her. Remember,
don't force her to make decision, it might screw up everything.
Source : Newsgroup at alt.seduction.fast
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