“Attraction is not a choice.”
-David DeAngelo
Interesting quote, but what does this mean to us guys? In short, women are conditioned to respond to certain signals, traits, and physical characteristics.
It is not that they CHOOSE to be attracted to bad boys, or athletes, or wealthy businessmen. Rather, evolution has conditioned them to be attracted to these types of men, because they execute the right actions and behaviors that send off attraction signals in women’s brains. Talk about having chemistry!
The good news is, You don’t HAVE to be wealthy, athletic, or a bad boy to successfully attract women. You just have to ACT like them. You just have to know what behaviors, attitudes, and actions they have that WORK in impressing and seducing women.
There are 10 laws of attraction every man must know, but as I only have a limited space, I’m only going to detail the first three here. For the remaining seven, check out my “How to Be Irresistible to Women: The Mastery Series” course.
Now, onto the 3 laws of attraction!
Rule #1: Demonstrate High Social Status
There are lots of great ways to do this, including peacocking, which is a popular term for dressing up in outrageous outfits and hair styles; being energetic; and using your popularity–the principle of social proof. When women see you socializing with bartenders, managers, and club/bar owners, this proves that you are popular–and desirable.
So get to know everyone at the places you go to: the party hosts, the bartenders, the owners, the managers, everyone. When women notice you’re in a position of importance and popularity, they WILL become attracted to you–even if they don’t realize it!
Rule #2: Make Impressions
A great way to attract a woman is to make a memorable impressions. It doesn’t matter how good you look, how tall you are, how wealthy you are–all you have to do is leave a good memory of who you are. Make a woman remember you. You can do this in a number of ways, including:
Ask How She’s Doing with Confidence
A simple, “Hey, what’s up?” in a relaxed tone goes a long way towards making a girl remember you. This is especially effective with retail clerks and waitresses. Don’t act too interested in what she has to say–just say it in a slow, cool, DEEP tone of voice that sends their emotional chemicals buzzing! Say this with a relaxed, open body and good posture. The truth is, when you understand what body language and tonality cues work, you will attract women with ease.
Tease Her
Show your confidence in yourself by joking about a girl’s hair or occupation. You can say, “Wow, you put a lot of effort into that hairstyle, huh?” or if she says she’s a model or dancer, say, “Huh, just a model, eh? Well, that’s nice.” Acting unimpressed, ironically, will make her impressed. Girls are used to having guys fawn over them, so to do the opposite of what she expects will go a long way, to your advantage. This proves you don’t need any woman’s validation, to feel attractive. Hate to say it, but women want a man who doesn’t need them to feel good about himself. Don’t believe anything else.
Joke About Other Guy’s Failure
This is a great technique where you can use other guys’ pickup failures to your advantage. If a guy says something really cheesy or stupid, just say to her, “Man, you must get that all the time.” Or just go up to her and say, “See that guy over there? He’s got the WORST BO in the world!”
Find out more methods, including how to make her laugh and tell great stories, in my Mastery Course now.
Rule #3: Be Funny in An Attractive, Cocky Way
As you can tell from the methods above, humor is great way of attracting women. Women just seem to love laughing, and when you think about it, you can’t blame them: Who wants to be with a boring guy? Especially if they’re thinking of settling down with a guy in a relationship, they want a guy who can keep things interesting, humorous, and not too serious. Humor does just that. Some great ways to make a girl laugh include:
Self-Deprecation
This is where karaoke is great–you can poke fun at yourself and be a clown. It shows you’re comfortable with yourself, fun, and not too serious.
Wit
As long as you don’t use it against her too much, wit can be a great thing. It shows intelligence and humor.
Observational Humor
Observing funny things like a clumsy waiter or a guy whose face looks like his dog’s is a great way of making a girl laugh.
Exaggeration
Telling a great story and showcasing how ridiculous something was, is a surefire way to leave an impression. Having a lot of anecdotes ready to tell a girl is a great way of making an impression, and attracting her.
Cocky comedy
This amazing technique, pioneered by David DeAngelo, is an incredible way of both demonstrating high social status, and of making her laugh. Generally, you want to break her balls and BREAK HER STATE. Take her out of her element, tease her in front of her group. Show that you don’t need her, and especially that you don’t need her for self-validation. Very powerful stuff, and something I discuss in detail in my audio lesson on Building Higher Status.
There are all kinds of additional ways to attract women, and truthfully, not enough can be written on the subject. But this should give you a start to your understanding of what women want. To find out more, check out my dynamic “How to Be Irresistible to Women: The Mastery Series” course on how to attract the women YOU want.
It’s YOUR turn to begin an exciting, successful new lifestyle!
James Brito
Host of “How To Be Irresistible To Women Mastery Series”
