When Did You Lose Your Virginity ?
I want to ask you a question…
It’s kind of personal, so I hope you don’t mind.
And answer it honestly. After all, it’s just me here. And I promise not to tell the answer to anyone.
So here it is:
Are you a virgin? And if not, then at what age did you lose your virginity?
C’mon now, don’t be shy. It’s just us guys talking.
I’ll share something with you, and it’s something you might not even know…
Most of the guys out there who are “naturals” with the ladies are guys who lost their virginity at a very early age! And most of the guys out there who aren’t very good with women are the ones who lost their virginity late in life, or are still virgins!
Seriously.
Almost every major ladies man I know is a guy who lost his virginity between the ages of 13-15. Some of them were even younger than that! So does this mean that if you lost your virgin cherry to some sweet girl after the age of 15 you’re destined to struggle with women for the rest of your life?
Well, not necessarily.
But it might!
I’ll tell you why…
People tend to create certain beliefs about the way things are based on their own personal experiences. So if you’re a guy who loses his virginity at a young age, this forms your beliefs about women and sex very early on.
It becomes something natural.
You’ve done it once while young, so it becomes something easy to do. You formulate the belief that having sex with women is nothing really special, it’s just something that you do.
Girls lose their mystique, and you’re able to see them for who they really are (as people, not as objects to be worshipped and adored) and you stop idealizing the idea of sex. So as you get older, you train yourself to just GO FOR IT.
BUT…
Let’s say you’re not one of these guys, and you don’t lose your virginity at an early age. Let’s say it doesn’t happen until you’re in your 20s, or 30s. What happens when this is the case?
Answer: YOU FORM WRONG BELIEFS ABOUT WOMEN AND SEX.
You start seeing sex as a romanticized act. It’s something “special” and “unique.” Losing your virginity is supposed to be a big moment in your life. But here’s the God’s honest truth…
SEX IS A SWEATY, CLUMSY ACT THAT’S ABOUT AS SPECIAL AS WORKING OUT AT THE GYM FOR AN HOUR.
Let’s talk about this for a moment.
Do you spend your life dreaming of the day you can finally go to the gym and work out?
Do you believe that weight lifting machines are sacred, beautiful things which should be worshipped and adored, and if they like you, THEN you’ll be allowed to work out on them?
Do you go and brag to all your friends about how great your work-out was, and how you can’t wait to do it again?
I’m sure you don’t.
I’m sure when you want to go work out, you set aside some time, go to the gym, power through the work-out, then shower and go home and get on with your life.
Why is this?
Because you have a certain belief about going to the gym.
It’s something that you can do if you have the willpower to go do it. All you need to do is open up a membership and start pumping iron, right?
Now let me ask you this:
How is succeeding with women any different?
See, when you are given the time to build up certain ideas of how things should be — losing your virginity should be special, so you have to wait for the right girl to come along — no sex before marriage — women are special flowers who should be worshipped — and any other “happily ever after” cliche you can think of, what you’re really doing is SABOTAGING yourself and your success with women.
The guys who lost their virginity at a young age learned early: Sex is not special. Without love, it doesn’t mean anything. It’s this belief and experience that frees these men from the fear, anxiety, and bad beliefs that hold back those of us who don’t have success with women until we’re older.
Because while they see sex for what it really is, there are those of us who still believe in waiting for the “perfect” woman. Well guess what. No woman is perfect. Virginity should not be worshipped, and losing it should not be a sacred thing.
Your mind needs to be in the right place.
You MUST NOT be focused on the act of sex. Instead, your focus should be on relating to women as human beings.
This is the KEY to being successful in love.
When you remove the element of “Sacred Sex” as I call it, and stop placing so much darn importance on it, you free yourself up to really relate to women in a way that allows you to show them who you really are and what about you is attractive.
That’s the only real trick.
That’s what the guys who lose their virginity early are able to figure out.
Once you accept this as fact, go to this website:
Art of Approaching
Then get my book, The Art Of Approaching. It will show you how to use this mentality to your advantage and really start enjoying REAL success with the ladies.
Wishing you success,
Joseph Matthews
Master The Art Of Approaching
