How To Approach Women In A Group
My name is Dean Cortez, and I have a confession to make: I'm a hardcore pickup artist.
I make it my mission to approach beautiful women EVERY DAY and constantly expand my network -- more hot girls to date, more honeys to sleep with, and new sexy friends to simply go out with to bars and nightclubs.
Because when you go out to meet NEW girls, the best "wingman" of all isn't a guy -- it's a hot CHICK who makes the other girls jealous ;)
I've taught thousands of guys around the world how to use "bulletproof" tactics to approach girls in any situation and get the results they want.
I don't care if you're walking around at the mall, or working out at the gym, or looking to pick up girls at bars and nightclubs -- I've spent YEARS figuring out the very best ways to walk up to hot girls, start cool conversations, and achieve one of two goals:
GOAL #1: Get her phone number, call her the next day, and meet up with her. This "date" will require me to spend less than $20, but we'll have a GREAT time and it will end with her coming back to my place and staying overnight ;)
GOAL #2: If the circumstances allow it, I will meet her and sleep with her the same night. This is NOT difficult to do when you follow the correct steps.
Now, sometimes I'll see a girl at a bar or club, and I want to mack on her, but she's in a GROUP of girls.
I never let this stop me. In fact, a girl who is with a group is often EASIER to seduce than a girl who is all alone.
Right now you may be thinking, "how is that possible?"
Well, let me explain the 70/30 Rule, and how to use it...
I will illustrate this by telling a story about a girl I hooked up with a few nights ago.
I was at a popular nightclub in Las Vegas and I saw this STUNNING brunette girl standing near the bar. Very exotic-looking, wearing a sexy short dress. She was with several female friends.
At this point, most guys would have thought "this is an impossible situation -- I shouldn't even bother trying to approach the group."
Not me. I watched them for a couple of minutes. Studying them. Gathering Intell. The hot chick was accompanied by four girls. I was able to identify the girl that was the "leader" of the group.
(This is usually obvious -- it's the one who is doing most of the talking and using the most animated body language. The "loudmouth" of the crew.)
I also identified the U.F. (Ugly Friend.) Usually a hot girl's group of friends will include one girl who is clearly NOT as hot as the others. This girl is going to be self-conscious because she is used to being ignored when guys try to approach the hot girls in the group.
(This is more good Intell to possess -- you will work her into your strategy.)
So I walked by them, stopped, and said over my shoulder in the direction of the "leader" --
"Quick question. If a guy breaks up with his girlfriend, how long should he wait before he tries to date one of her friends?"
As I said this, I nodded towards a guy who was across the room. (I didn't even know the dude. I was just using him to set up this conversation. In your case, you might nod towards a friend of yours who is across the bar.)
This type of question is an AWESOME introduction because it IMMEDIATELY gets the group of girls interested and talking.
This question gets an EMOTIONAL reaction.
They're not bugging out and thinking "who is this random guy trying to talk to us?"
They're thinking about THEIR previous break-ups, and about people they know and their exes, and their minds are spinning with stuff they want to share about...
So then, I'll step into their group and do two things:
1. Use a time constraint (let them know that I can't stay with them for long).
I'll point to the "leader" of the group, as I slide in to join them, and say "I can only stay for a sec, but I can TOTALLY tell that you've been in that situation...so how long should my buddy wait?"
(Time constraints make girls feel a LOT more comfortable when you approach, because you're telling them that you can only "stay for a minute" or you can only "hang out for second." This also implies that you're a busy guy with somewhere else to be.)
2. Next, I'll tell them a story about my "friend" and why he broke up with his girlfriend.
Here's a good one:
"So my buddy other there, Dan, he really likes this girl but she's a friend of his ex-girlfriend, so it might be a little weird. But Dan's a super cool guy and his girlfriend broke up with him for the SILLIEST reason..."
(Now, the group of girls is dying to hear the reason...)
So I continue,
"OK, so here's what happened. Dan invited his girlfriend to come to his house so he could cook dinner, and she asked him if she could use his computer to check her email, and he said 'sure'... but he was still logged into his personal email account, so his girlfriend went ahead and clicked on it and read all his messages. She saw that he was still keeping in touch with his ex-girlfriend -- Dan and his ex are still friends so they talk sometimes. The emails were nothing bad. They were just exchanging messages and saying hello, how's your life going, stuff like that."
Now the girls are REALLY into what I'm saying, so I go on...
"But when Dan's girlfriend saw those messages, she got really mad! She doesn't want Dan having ANY contact with ANY girls that he's been with before. So anyway, they had a huge argument. Dan felt that she had violated his privacy by looking at his emails. What do you girls think?"
(Or, I'll REALLY fire up the discussion and say to the group, "seriously, let's say you found out the password to your boyfriend's email account. Would you check it?")
When I ask this question, I direct it towards the U.F. (Ugly Friend). Normally, when a guy tries to approach this group, the U.F. gets ignored. Now, I'm putting her in the spotlight and making her feel good!
I let the conversation flow from this point, and I find ways to AGREE with whatever the girls say -- while also using my tactics to UNDERSCORE my own positive qualities.
I am BARELY ACKNOWLEDGING the hot girl in the group who is my true "target."
As we converse, I am spending 70% of my attention on the OTHER GIRLS. Especially the U.F.
I am only giving 30% of my attention to the hot exotic brunette who I want to be with tonight.
After 15 minutes, I'm going to SHIFT the 70/30 and reverse it. I'm going to find a conversational topic that I can use to isolate the hot girl and put 70% of my attention on HER.
I'm going to take her by the hand and LEAD her to the dance floor, or bring her to the bar to get a drink, and her friends will NOT try to stop it -- because we've already all "bonded" over a cool discussion.
Her friends will actually be ROOTING for me to hook up with my target!
This is because there are a few specific "seeds" that I planted during that conversation that paint me as the kind of guy these girls WANT their hot friend to be with...
And so, because I played it the right way, the other girls in the group WANT me to spend some "alone time" with the hot one.
All of the specific rules, techniques and "seeds" are laid out in our book on Approaching Women. It's the ultimate guide to approaching, whether she's in a group at a bar, or she's just walking down the street.
There are rules and tactics for every possible approach situation. So why miss out on another opportunity?
Dean Cortez
Bullet Proof Seduction Founder
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